Should I Feel Guilt For Giving-Up My Child to My Parents

Hard one.

I don’t want to pass judgement on you or what has led to this point, but it depends on the circumstances.

If You Are:

A really screwed-up person and unable to be a responsible, loving, and supportive caregiver to your child, then you might feel guilty about giving up the responsibility of raising your child to a parent - but it is the responsible, selfless and brave thing to do. (Nice version — if you know you are incapable of being a responsible caring parent, and you have a parent willing to take up the task of raising your child, then do not feel guilty for finding a good solution the will lead to your child living a happy healthy life).
If you are in a financial, social and psychological condition to care for your child, and you just don’t want the responsibility of caring for them, then yes, you probably ought to feel guilty. It takes an abundance of work, sacrifice and financial resources to raise a child, and it seems that this could be viewed as a burden. (Free to feel guilty).
If you have a partner or lover who is pressuring you to give up your child — get a grip, that’s messed up, dump him or her. (Free to feel guilty).
If the situation is temporary, and you are trying to get back up on your feet financially, emotionally, mentally — then if you have a clear strategy for when and how you will recover your health and condition enough or to a level that you can regain the responsibility of caring for your offspring — then you probably ought not to feel guilty.
If your parent(s) are not really in a position to care for your child, and they are being obligated to — regardless of the reasons why — then you probably ought to feel guilty.
If your parent(s) are irresponsible (and you would know firsthand), and cannot provide the care and love your child needs, and may have a situation where you child will suffer or be put in harms way — then yeah, you probably ought to feel guilty.
If you child is special needs, and again, you just don’t want to deal with what you perceive as a burden of caring for your child, then, yeah, you probably ought to feel guilty.
Depends also on the age of your child and what they may have expressed as their desires. Is the child’s father on the scene? Has your child expressed and voiced where they actually would like to be other than with you?

Time goes, and once it’s gone, you don’t get it back. Time is almost as precious as life itself, it is life itself. If you get it wrong, and you realize it later, you can’t go back and fix it. So if you can, fix it now.

If your child will experience any kind or level of harm — it’s messed up. Children are precious and ought to be protected at all cost(s). In fact, your children are the most precious and priceless, irreplaceable element (thing) you can have on this Earth. Protect your child at all cost. If you are in a position to care for your child, then do so. Love your child, protect your child. If you need help or training to parent, then seek this out, for the benefit of you and your child.

Wish you all the best. Be strong. Pray for guidance and strength.

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